Tori Blogs About Adoption

Update: *Selah and *Brianna, two more little girls from the government orphanage, have also joined the family. Foster mom Tori returned to the United States, and new foster mom Merissa moved in (follow her here – you will need to contact her to gain access to the password-protected posts, which protect the childrens’ identities). *Mae and *Teagan were rescued from the government orphanage. Then, the family gained another sibling, *Addie, whom Merissa is currently in the process of adopting! Nikki has also adopted Deepa (known as *Charlotte) formally! Nikki and Merissa intend to remain co-foster moms in  India at Courage Purple for an indeterminate length.

Tori is Nikki of Courage Home Purple’s co-foster mom. Her blog is His Strength, Not Mine. Tori, and Nikki, live with foster kids *Promise, *Lily, *Nolan, *Molly, *Jasmine, *Cedar, *Dinah, *Theo, and their most recent addition, adorable little *Louise. They are still waiting for *Chloe and *Charlotte to arrive from the government orphanage. Recently, Tori has had adoption on her mind. As such, she has composed two beautifully, heartbreakingly written blog posts about her thoughts on the subject.

Blog #1 discusses the happy things about adoption. You can read it here.

Blog #2 discusses the not-so-happy things about adoption. This post is about the children who aren’t able to be adopted, and those who, for sure, knew the love of a family before being abandoned. Their histories are somewhat known, which can’t be said for some other children at SCH. You can read it here.

Note: Part 2 is a difficult read, but it is important. The system is heartbreaking, as are the stories of some of the childrens’ abandonment. No child should ever feel the pain and suffering caused by being abandoned. Both *Lily and *Promise know what it feels like to be given up. 8Promise will stay at SCH forever, because there are no other options for her – she has aged out of the adoption system, and is unable to live independently due to the severity of her needs.

*Lily has the possibility of adoption within the next few years, yet she already carries the burden of scars caused by her abandonment. She has attachment issues no child should ever have to struggle with having. It is sad, but it is reality for many children around the globe. Please read both blogs, they are equally important. I’m going to let Tori’s words speak for themselves from here on out. (Note 2017: *Lily can be pursued for adoption here and here!)

This is important. Adoption is not comprised of all positive things. It’s a wonderful thing, but it doesn’t change the past. All we can do is learn from the past and maybe help change the future.

Blog #3 can be read here, and is a general wrap-up of previous posts. Some hard realities are plainly stated, but are oh-so-important.

An important part of SCH’s work is YOU! SCH relies on donations to keep running. Donation opportunities include monthly child sponsors at any cost per month, from as low as $10/month. Sponsorship usually costs between $300 and $500 per child, depending on complexity of needs and which city they live in (Ongole or Hyderabad).

You can sponsor any child who needs additional funding at SCH by using the resources found here. Use these resources to get involved in other ways, such as becoming an advocate or volunteering. You can also become a medical sponsor (ideal for large groups or organizations who wish to support SCH) and donate toward monthly emergency medical expenses; or an educational sponsor and donate toward a specific on-site school. Learn about other ways to give charitably to SCH here, and check back often for additional opportunities.

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*A note about names: SCH uses online nicknames for the children in order to protect their identity, per Indian governmental guidelines which state that children in care may not have identifying photos of them on the internet, as well as no identifying information such as birth name, place of origin, etc.


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